You’ve probably heard the old saying “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.”

你肯定聽(tīng)過(guò)這樣一句諺語(yǔ)：“籬笆外的草總是分外綠”，別人的似乎總比我們好。

Perhaps you feel like it’s true. You look at other people’s lives, and you envy them. They seem to be doing so much better than you. They’ve got a great job. Lots of money. A happy home life. They seem to have it all. And you can’t help wishing that you did, too.

也許你覺(jué)得這句話(huà)是對(duì)的，你會(huì)羨慕嫉妒別人的生活，覺(jué)得他們什么都比你做得好：體面的工作、豐厚的收入、幸福的家庭，他們好像什么都有了。所以你忍不住希望：要是自己也能擁有這些就好了。

But none of us ever really know what it’s like to live someone else’s life. No-one’s life is perfect – whatever it looks like from the outside.

但我們從來(lái)無(wú)從知曉，如果讓我們?nèi)ミ^(guò)別人的生活會(huì)是什么樣子。也許從外面看來(lái)很美好，但沒(méi)有人的生活是完美無(wú)缺的。

Plus, it’s a safe bet that some of your friends are looking at your life and thinking very similar things. Whatever state your life is in, you’ve got a lot of good things. You just need to recognize them again.

而且我完全可以肯定，有一些你的朋友也和你一樣，看著你的生活想著類(lèi)似的事情。其實(shí)不管你現(xiàn)在的生活狀態(tài)如何，你都已經(jīng)擁有了很多美好的事情，你只需要重新認(rèn)識(shí)自己的生活。

I. Enjoy What You Have

享受你所擁有的一切

One of the best ways to love your current life is to write a list of things you’re grateful for. It doesn’t matter if they seem small or insignificant: little everyday moments of happiness count. You might think of:

熱愛(ài)自己現(xiàn)在的生活，最好的方式之一就是寫(xiě)下生命中讓你心懷感激的事情。就算是很瑣碎很沒(méi)有意義也沒(méi)有關(guān)系：正是這些日常生活中快樂(lè)的小時(shí)刻讓我們的生活變得有意義。你可能會(huì)想到：

1. People who you’re grateful for – your family, friends, housemates, co-workers…

你感謝的那些人：你的家人、朋友、室友、同事等等;

2. Treats which you enjoy – the smell of fresh coffee, the taste of dark chocolate, a long bath after a hard day…

你喜歡的那些東西：新鮮現(xiàn)磨咖啡的香味，黑巧克力的味道，還有辛苦一天后好好洗個(gè)熱水澡;

3. Things which make your day easier – the dishwasher, online grocery shopping, fast internet access at work…

會(huì)讓生活變得輕松的事物：洗碗機(jī)、網(wǎng)上購(gòu)物、工作時(shí)的快捷網(wǎng)絡(luò);

4. Anything special which you’ve grown accustomed to – your wedding ring, your smartphone, a favorite coat…

已經(jīng)讓你變得習(xí)慣的特別物件：結(jié)婚戒指、智能手機(jī)、最喜歡的外套;

5. Happy moments – chatting with a friend, something which made you laugh, playing with your kids…

那些歡樂(lè)時(shí)光：和朋友的閑聊、讓你開(kāi)懷大笑的事情、和孩子們一起玩耍......

II. Focus on the Good Points

專(zhuān)注生活中好的方面

When we’re thinking about future goals and ambitions, it’s easy to end up in quite a negative mood about the present. Perhaps you start thinking through all the things you want to change in your life: losing weight, getting fit, quitting smoking, switching jobs…

當(dāng)我們想到未來(lái)的目標(biāo)和理想時(shí)，我們很容易對(duì)當(dāng)下陷入一種消極的情緒中。也許你開(kāi)始想到生活中你想改變的所有事情：減肥、健身、戒煙、換工作等等。

As well as thinking of what you might want to change, look at the areas of your life which are currently good. Maybe:

在想到你想要改變的這些事情的同時(shí)，也看看現(xiàn)在的生活中已經(jīng)很好的部分，也許是：

1. You get on well with your colleagues at work, and you’ve got a good relationship with your boss

你跟同事相處得非常融洽，跟老板的關(guān)系也很好;

2. You’ve got some real strengths – like being able to establish a quick connection with clients, and being organised

你已經(jīng)培養(yǎng)了一些真正的優(yōu)勢(shì)：比方說(shuō)能很快的與客戶(hù)建立聯(lián)系，而且比較有條理;

3. Your house is set up pretty much how you want it – there might not be loads of space, but it feels like home

家里的構(gòu)造正是你一直想要的：可能空間不大，但非常有家的溫馨;

…and so on. How could you make more of these good things? Perhaps you could spend more time on your hobbies, or concentrate on your particular strengths at work.

還有很多。這些好的方面應(yīng)該如何利用呢?也許你可以在自己的愛(ài)好上花更多的時(shí)間，或在工作上專(zhuān)注于自己的特長(zhǎng)。

III. Live in the Moment

活在當(dāng)下

It’s appropriate to plan for the future, and to learn from the past – but it’s not a good idea to constantly have your mind on how “things will be better next year when…” or on “l(fā)ife was so much better last year because…”

為未來(lái)計(jì)劃和從過(guò)去學(xué)習(xí)，這都是很正確的做法，但如果你的心里總是在糾結(jié) “明年等......的時(shí)候事情可能會(huì)好起來(lái)” 或是“去年的生活輕松多了因?yàn)?.....” ，那就不太對(duì)了。

Being able to live in the moment means appreciating what’s around you. It’s about having your attention on now, instead of reminiscing about what’s already gone, or worrying about what’s yet to come. Living in the moment means:

活在當(dāng)下，意思是要欣賞現(xiàn)在生活中周?chē)囊磺小０涯愕淖⒁饬Ψ旁诂F(xiàn)在，而不是追憶已成過(guò)去的往事，或是憂(yōu)心還未到來(lái)的明天。活在當(dāng)下意味著：

1. Enjoying your days off, without constantly thinking about Monday morning.

休息日就好好休息，別總是想著馬上要來(lái)的周一;

2. Taking time to stop and watch a beautiful sunset, or to enjoy the smell of fresh-mown grass.

花點(diǎn)時(shí)間停下來(lái)看看美麗的夕陽(yáng)，或者聞聞剛剛修剪過(guò)的草坪的青草香;

3. Eating your meals more mindfully – instead of grabbing a sandwich on the run.

更用心的享受每一餐食物，而不是抓一個(gè)三明治匆匆了事。

By keeping your attention on the present moment, the here-and-now, you can get much more enjoyment from the life you already have.

讓你的注意力專(zhuān)注在當(dāng)下的時(shí)光，此刻此處。你會(huì)從已經(jīng)擁有的生活中感受到更多的樂(lè)趣。